Conflict in our lives and Churches: Part III
Becoming Peacemakers
Conflict is inevitable. In our previous articles, we discovered that much of our conflict begins within us, as James reminds us that quarrels often arise from our own desires and selfish ambitions (James 4:1-3). We also saw how pride can deepen those conflicts by making it difficult to admit our faults, extend grace, or seek reconciliation. If we are to honor Christ, however, we cannot stop with identifying the problem—we must pursue the solution.
Jesus calls His followers to be known by something far greater than their opinions or their ability to win an argument. He calls us to be peacemakers.
In John 13:35, Jesus said, "By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another." Our response to conflict is one of the greatest testimonies to the world of the transforming power of Christ. When believers choose humility over pride, forgiveness over bitterness, and reconciliation over division, they display the heart of Jesus.
Peace within conflict is worth our greatest effort. The Apostle Paul writes in Ephesians 4:3, "Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace." Notice that Paul doesn't simply encourage peace—he tells us to make every effort. Healthy relationships require intentional work, patience, prayer, and a willingness to place Christ above our own preferences.
Being a peacemaker means becoming more like Christ. Jesus extended grace to those who failed Him, forgave those who sinned against Him, and even prayed for those who crucified Him (Luke 23:34). If we are to reflect His character, we must choose to forgive those who have wronged us. Forgiveness does not excuse sin or erase consequences, but it releases the grip of bitterness and opens the door to healing.
Likewise, humility requires us to accept forgiveness when we have been the one who caused the hurt. Owning our mistakes, seeking forgiveness, and receiving the grace that is offered are all marks of spiritual maturity.
Conflict resolved in a biblical way doesn't always mean everyone agrees, but it does mean that Christ is honored. As we surrender our desires, lay aside our pride, and pursue peace through forgiveness and reconciliation, we become living examples of the gospel we proclaim.
May we be people who make every effort to pursue peace, demonstrating to a watching world that we truly belong to Jesus Christ.
Pastor Luke Schouten
CKT Coordinator